I am a huge fan of giving ‘moments’ rather than ‘things’. I believe we have way too much stuff in our lives but you can never have enough special moments or memories.
Last year my sister and I trotted off to Byron Bay for the weekend, just the two of us, no kids, no hubbies, just us. It was something we had not done for years, if ever! It was then we decided we would stop buying each other ‘more stuff’ and find something to go and do together in between our birthday months of May and August.
So this year, when tickets went on sale to the Australian Ballet’s Nutcracker performance at the Sydney Opera House I asked my mum to take my sister and I to the ballet for my birthday. We had lunch and cocktails at the Opera Kitchen prior to the ballet and afterwards enjoyed coffee and dessert. It was a fabulous afternoon of creating memories and not adding more stuff to my home.
I use these gifts of ‘moments’ as opportunities to spend special one-on-one time with my kids. A few years ago my husband and I took our son to climb the Sydney Harbour Bridge. It was just the three of us, without his sisters, and it was an amazing experience to share together ‘on top of the world’.
My eldest daughter still talks about the time my sister and I took her to her very first concert, The Veronicas, when she was 8 years old and then two years ago when we surprised her by picking up her bestie and taking them to The Madden Brothers concert.
They don’t have to be expensive gifts either. My youngest daughter loves getting her nails done so someone in the family always arranges that for her birthday or at Christmas.
Most recently it was my 6 year old nieces birthday and I really wasn’t sure what to get her. My daughter’s then suggested she have a sleepover at our house and the next day we take her for a girls day out to high tea.
So that’s what we did on the weekend. She had a wonderful night getting her nails painted and her makeup done by her older cousins and in the morning we all got dressed up and headed to Vaucluse House Tea Rooms for the most scrumptious high tea in the glorious sunshine. The food was divine and the service impeccable and if I didn’t have to drive home, I could have easily sat there all day enjoying the bubbly.
The next morning I got messages from her mum and dad saying she had not stopped talking about her time with us and that she had had a ball!
And that’s why I love giving ‘moments’ instead of ‘things’. Moments give you the opportunity to spend quality time together while experiencing and sharing something new or something you may not otherwise have done. It’s those moments that creating memories that will last a lifetime.